Surviving the affair is devastating to say the least. How big of a relief would it be to feel the love and trust you once had in your husband? How would it feel to not worry endlessly every time he stepped out the door? Would it take some stress off knowing every word he tells you is the truth and your marriage is stronger than ever?
Those now famous words: "Can't we all just get along?" I cannot think of a husband or wife that doesn't desire to get along. Can you? Still, sometimes peace can elude us. During these times, it could be that love demands more of each spouse. Failure to comply with the rules of love could be the real culprit in marital breakdown.
If you find yourself asking "How can I be a good husband?" then that means that you are well on your way to becoming one. Just asking yourself this question means that you already have the most important quality of a husband - love for your wife. After all, why ask that question if you don't care what your partner thinks of you?
Before I begin, let me first say that no human being can fully meet the needs of another. While there is sin on the earth, we generally are self-seeking beings who put ourselves first! We tend to be selfish and not sacrificial. We expect others to meet our needs instead of striving to meet theirs. So although husbands will do well to take note of this list, women need to know that to find fulfillment in life is going to come only when we fill the God-shaped hole each of us has (both men and women). Only then will be truly happy and find contentment we are looking for.
1. The Faith Question
Each of us enters adulthood with many different values passed onto us from our parents and cultural upbringing. This may include our faith and belief system. It would be wise for each of us to know in our own minds what is important to us when it comes to religion and faith. It then becomes a 'non-negotiable' in marriage. Lay down a foundation of faith in your own life and decide that the person you marry must have the same faith.